Love is not selfish

Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;  - Romans 12:10

We live in a world that is enamored with "self."  Our culture around us teaches us to focus on our appearance, feelings, and personal desires as the top priority.  The goal, it seems, is to chase the highest level of happiness possible.  The danger from this kind of thinking is that it becomes painfully apparent once inside a marriage relationship.

Why do we have such low standards for ourselves but high expectations for our spouse?  We are selfish.

Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; - 1 Corinthians 13:4-5

Ask yourself these questions:

• Do I truly want what's best for my husband?
• Do I want them to feel loved by me?
• Do they believe I have their best interests in mind?
• Do they see me as looking out for myself first?

Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. - Philippians 2:3

Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you.  It's hard to care for something you are not investing in.

Purpose to buy your husband something that says, "I was thinking of you today."