Thursday, April 7, 2011

Sweet Things To Do for Your Husband

Spend lots of time dreaming together. There is something about merging our hopes and dreams for the future with someone else's.  I encourage you to have a dream for the next year of your marriage, another for the next five years, and another for the next 10 years.

Accentuate physical affection. Do you and your husband regularly hug, hold hands, smooch, nuzzle, and walk arm in arm? Touching is a ready-made reservoir of relational energy and intimacy.

Place a high priority on laughter and levity. Laughing together creates a magical bond. When you and your husband find humor in the same thing, you are fused together at that moment. Relive funny events from your lives, swap stories, watch wacky movies together — whatever makes you laugh, do it often.

Regularly communicate your mutual significance to each other. Look for every opportunity to tell your husband, "You are the most important person in my life." You can convey this verbally, in writing, or through acts of kindness.

This can be something small like bringing home your husband’s favorite ice cream or buying him a book with a touching inscription inside. These small gestures assure him that he is in your thoughts when you're apart, and this draws you closer to each other.

Eat by candlelight. It doesn’t matter if it’s a Domino’s pizza or a five-course gourmet meal, candles can present a very special atmosphere. Have you ever eaten pizza by candlelight? Try it! You’ll be surprised at how romantic it really is!

Pay attention when your husband mentions things he or she likes or expresses interest in something that could make a good gift, such as a new CD, a book, or theater, concert, sports tickets.

Be on the lookout for ideas for birthday, holiday, and anniversary gifts, plus "no reason" surprise gifts. It's very flattering to know that someone really tried to find a gift that was just what you wanted.

Frequently offer foot massages, shoulder massages, and full-body massages to your husband. You'll get plenty of brownie points in your "relationship bank account" if you keep some great-smelling lotion handy and take ten minutes to massage your husband's tired feet at the end of a long work day.

Note: Don't do these things expecting to be rewarded for your efforts, you won't accumulate any points for being romantic. Do this unselfishly!

Giving sweet cards and letters to your husband can be another way to show him that you are thinking of him, as can emails and phone messages that share your feelings. Handwritten letters sent through the mail are becoming more and more of a rarity. That's good for you because that means your husband will think you're really thoughtful for taking the time to write a letter of love by hand and mailing it. That will make more of an impact than just sending an email.

Pamper and spoil your husband. That might be letting him sleep in late while you watch the kids, or it could be telling your husband to sit down and relax while you clean up after dinner.

The key is in the delivery of the offer. You might say, "Nothing's too good for my sweetheart" or "It's fun to pamper you." You can accompany your words with a hug or kiss.

Talking in front of your husband to someone else about your his good points is a nice thing to do. Take full advantage of opportunities to say, 'I'm so lucky to have such a supportive husband - he's such a treasure. I'm a lucky woman."

You can also do this when you're talking on the phone. It doesn't have to be done in his presence.  We should always be lifting our husband's up!  Never tear down your husband to others.  Remember to not only love your husband, but to like him as well!

Surprise your husband with a framed picture of the two of you in a setting that will bring back pleasant memories. Another option is to frame a picture of your husband that shows him in a flattering way and let them know how much you love the photo. Keep it on your nightstand, computer, dresser, or desk and let your him see you looking at it admiringly.

We talked about taking surprise getaways. Why don’t you take the initiative to plan a surprise weekend outing? Call and make all the arrangements ahead of time. The outing doesn't have to be expensive or complex. It might be as simple as planning a picnic at a nearby scenic spot. You might prepare the surprise picnic lunch when your husband is in the shower. Or you might make arrangements for a restaurant to pack a gourmet lunch for the two of you that you could pick up on your way out of town.

Celebrate every occasion you can think of:  the anniversary of the day you met, when you became engaged, your marriage anniversary, your birthdays, and anything else you can come up with.

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